La Belle Negresse

Etiquette for Everyday Living

Living My Facebook Life

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I read somewhere that more than 83 million Facebook users are fake. While those numbers may be a bit exaggerated, I can attest to the growing number of Fakebookers. Fakebookers are people who say, portray and treat people in ways that is completely opposite of who they are in real life. Their posts often reflect that of a person with a “perfect” life, in full control of their life, actions, and surroundings. While their real life situations scream chaos.

There are also people who are generally pretty reserved with how much they share, so will only show what they think is enough to keep his/her friends engage, but not enough to get a complete picture of the whole person.

I am part of the second group of users, I share but not too much. Knowing how I represent myself online reminds me not to judge people by what they write, the pictures they post and quotes they re-blog…. Things  aren’t always what they seem.

It also reminds me to not judge my portion, by what people on Facebook  claim to have or have had. You only know and see what they allow you to see and willing to share, based on what they are trying to portray that day.

It’s easy to compare, become envious  and get down on yourself, because you feel your life doesn’t measure up to that of the happily married couples, super Moms/Dads, and carefree singles.  But if your sole method of measuring your growth, worth and value is by using the status of your friend du jour… you’re in for a rude awakening.

How many people you know would post comments or pics that would paint them in a negative or questionable light? Would you?

Social media (specifically Facebook) does not represent reality or the whole person. We are all editing and piecing together details of our lives that present our best selves to others. Behind that picture of the happy couple who floods your feed with random pics per hour, may be two people barely holding on. That carefree single friend with pics and comments about the benefits of being single, would never post about the hours spent dreaming and praying her Prince will come.

In no way am I implying every single person on Facebook is a liar with exaggerated statuses. But I do believe, people are more likely to show you the positive and the best part of their lives than they would the ugly.

Use  Facebook to connect, entertain, and share  but do not use it as a measure of your worth and  accomplishment or lack thereof.

If you find yourself constantly comparing your life with that of you Facebook “friends”, I recommend taking a break, log off and go LIVE. Whether they are lying or not, they are (to some extent) doing more than what you are doing, while sitting with bated breath awaiting their next pic…. Get out there  and live YOUR best life.

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One comment on “Living My Facebook Life

  1. eugeniamb
    September 23, 2013

    At this point, I’m stepping back from social media. I come on FB the least, just not real interested. It’s a way to keep up with family and few people. I do less and less, I’m about to shut down my blog completely just not feeling social media lately. I’ve got a wonderful marriage to try to cultivate, I feel like the blog is a job and everything else is slightly draining. I thought I’d feel worse about leaving the blog behind but no. Personally I don’t pay much attention to what people do online, pretty much what you see on my blog is what you get in real life. I don’t have time to work at being fake you can only do that for so long before the real you starts peeping out. I think ppl believe they do a good job of hiding it but they don’t.

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